Post by Tracy @ Momaical
You know what makes me want to go postal on people? When they say "you and your husband are so lucky." Lucky?? Fuck. That. Noise.
Try, hard working. Try driven. Try motivated. Try intelligent and (usually) made forward propelling life choices. But do not say "Lucky".
Yes, we are fortunate because we have been blessed with two healthy, gorgeous daughters. We can afford to buy nice things. I can stay home with the girls and try to prevent them from growing up and acting like entitled assholes. We have a happy marriage. But NONE of this is because lady luck winked in my general direction.
Luck is when you win the lottery. Luck is when you walk down the street and you find a crisp $20 bill. Luck is when you get pulled over for speeding and the officer lets you off with a warning because he likes the Jimmy Buffett song you are rockin' out to. Luck is being born into a vast fortune where you have no life responsibilities except to show up at parties and look the part of a fabulous heiress.
Having a good, secure, self procured life is WORK. Not luck. To get to where we are today I had to:
Study Hard
Go To College
Study Hard - learn work/life balance
Live Abroad
Speak Multiple Languages
Intern
Get A BA and a BS with honors
Take TWO full time jobs making $21,000
Fall on my face
Rebound from setbacks
Move, move, move and move some more to claw my way up the food chain
Work 90+ hour weeks
Work weekends
Fly all over the world for my job only to be home a few hours and go back out
Study some more
Put myself in networking events
Made personal and professional sacrifices
Take 7,000,000 certification tests
Work some more
Fall on my face
Start over again
Work full time, parent and study
Get a Master's Degree
Did I mention moving - this time with two kids?
Start over again
Keep working and trying to be successful. Putting myself out there to face rejection or acceptance.
Trying and failing. Trying again.
Marry a husband with the same ambition, ethics, work values and spending habits that I have - not someone that doesn't have drive to be successful.
Notice how none of these things are "someone handed me a vast fortune" or "my daddy made me Vice President of a corporation that he owns and plans to hand over to me?" No trust fund here. Just work, good choices, rebounding from the choices I thought were good but turned out to suck ass and more work.
So - the next time you see someone who has made a nice life for themselves - don't think "Wow, they are so lucky." Instead, think "Wow. That person worked their ass off for those things. Good for them."
You know what makes me want to go postal on people? When they say "you and your husband are so lucky." Lucky?? Fuck. That. Noise.
Try, hard working. Try driven. Try motivated. Try intelligent and (usually) made forward propelling life choices. But do not say "Lucky".
Yes, we are fortunate because we have been blessed with two healthy, gorgeous daughters. We can afford to buy nice things. I can stay home with the girls and try to prevent them from growing up and acting like entitled assholes. We have a happy marriage. But NONE of this is because lady luck winked in my general direction.
Luck is when you win the lottery. Luck is when you walk down the street and you find a crisp $20 bill. Luck is when you get pulled over for speeding and the officer lets you off with a warning because he likes the Jimmy Buffett song you are rockin' out to. Luck is being born into a vast fortune where you have no life responsibilities except to show up at parties and look the part of a fabulous heiress.
Having a good, secure, self procured life is WORK. Not luck. To get to where we are today I had to:
Study Hard
Go To College
Study Hard - learn work/life balance
Live Abroad
Speak Multiple Languages
Intern
Get A BA and a BS with honors
Take TWO full time jobs making $21,000
Fall on my face
Rebound from setbacks
Move, move, move and move some more to claw my way up the food chain
Work 90+ hour weeks
Work weekends
Fly all over the world for my job only to be home a few hours and go back out
Study some more
Put myself in networking events
Made personal and professional sacrifices
Take 7,000,000 certification tests
Work some more
Fall on my face
Start over again
Work full time, parent and study
Get a Master's Degree
Did I mention moving - this time with two kids?
Start over again
Keep working and trying to be successful. Putting myself out there to face rejection or acceptance.
Trying and failing. Trying again.
Marry a husband with the same ambition, ethics, work values and spending habits that I have - not someone that doesn't have drive to be successful.
Notice how none of these things are "someone handed me a vast fortune" or "my daddy made me Vice President of a corporation that he owns and plans to hand over to me?" No trust fund here. Just work, good choices, rebounding from the choices I thought were good but turned out to suck ass and more work.
So - the next time you see someone who has made a nice life for themselves - don't think "Wow, they are so lucky." Instead, think "Wow. That person worked their ass off for those things. Good for them."
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